Hi everyone. It’s been about 6 months since my surgery (Stage 2 colon cancer, thankfully surgery only). Recovery feels slow – still dealing with significant fatigue some days and unpredictable bowel issues. My husband and teenage kids have been absolutely incredible, picking up all the slack with cooking, cleaning, everything. But I just feel consumed by guilt. I feel useless and like I’m just this burden they constantly have to manage. How do you shake this feeling? It’s really weighing me down.
Sarah, please be kind to yourself. Stage 2 might not involve chemo, but the surgery is HUGE, and recovery takes real time. Have you considered talking to a therapist or oncology social worker? Processing these feelings of guilt and adjusting to the ‘new normal’ post-cancer is exactly what they help with. I found it invaluable.
I keep thinking about therapy. Maybe it really is time. Did it feel weird talking about ‘just’ surgery recovery when others are going through chemo?
Not at all! Your experience is valid. Cancer is trauma, surgery is trauma, recovery challenges are real, regardless of treatment type. A good therapist understands that. Comparison is the thief of joy (and healing!). Your feelings matter.